Attachment Styles

Attachment Styles

While studying child and adolescent counselling and psychotherapy I found myself becoming engrossed in all thing’s attachment related and I feel this is something we all need to understand, especially our own personal attachment styles.   Recently, I have found myself on my own path of discovery, unearthing and trying to comprehend my own personal…

Building your love map

Building Your Love Map

I have spoken about the Sound Relationship House in previous blogs (and have attached it below). It starts off with the foundation layer known as building your love map. Love maps are simply knowing the little things about your partner’s life which creates a strong foundation for your friendship and intimacy.   When I meet…

TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS IN RELATIONSHIPS

Transactional Analysis in Relationships

“He needs to grow up!”  “She is nagging me!” “She is acting like my mother!” “He is treating me like a child!”   Are some of these phases familiar in your relationship? If so, Transactional Analysis in relationships could shed a light on why they appear in adult relationships. Transactional analysis is a concept created…

Reframing Fear

Reframing Fear

“Fear is the most powerful, natural and primitive human emotion”   Fear has a very strong effect on our mind and body, the more we fear something, the more energy we give it, the more we manifest it.   Reframing Fear   Fear is a natural response to a threat that can be either perceived or…

Pinch Crunch Test

Pinch Crunch Test

To follow on from my previous blog “Communication vs Confrontation”, I wanted to write about the “Pinch Crunch Test”. This comes into play at the start of a relationship, and it can lay the foundations for communication throughout your relationship.   When two people meet for the first time, it’s wonderful! A physical attraction builds…

Communication vs Confrontation

Communication vs Confrontation

Communication vs Confrontation   Communication is the basis of human extinct and as a relationship counsellor the main thing I hear from couples in the counselling room is that we do not know how to communicate. From my experience couples think that communication is or leads to confrontation. However, this does not need to be…