I think it is fitting that I have chosen the topic of endings as my last blog for The DMC Clinic. I admit I am not very good myself at endings, from my years in personal counselling I have realised it stems back to my childhood when my mother passed away and so I…
I am noticing lately in the counselling room the label of “anxiety” is being used a lot. I will meet clients for the first time and the first thing they tell me when they meet me is they have been diagnosed with the anxiety label. I also notice in society you hear the statements; he…
I have spoken about the Sound Relationship House in previous blogs (and have attached it below). It starts off with the foundation layer known as building your love map. Love maps are simply knowing the little things about your partner’s life which creates a strong foundation for your friendship and intimacy. When I meet…
“He needs to grow up!” “She is nagging me!” “She is acting like my mother!” “He is treating me like a child!” Are some of these phases familiar in your relationship? If so, Transactional Analysis in relationships could shed a light on why they appear in adult relationships. Transactional analysis is a concept created…
To follow on from my previous blog “Communication vs Confrontation”, I wanted to write about the “Pinch Crunch Test”. This comes into play at the start of a relationship, and it can lay the foundations for communication throughout your relationship. When two people meet for the first time, it’s wonderful! A physical attraction builds…
Communication vs Confrontation Communication is the basis of human extinct and as a relationship counsellor the main thing I hear from couples in the counselling room is that we do not know how to communicate. From my experience couples think that communication is or leads to confrontation. However, this does not need to be…
“She entered the hotel lobby and tuck a deep breath, as she approached the hotel reception, he had said that she was to check in under Mrs Smith. The receptionist was very polite handed her the key and told her to enjoy her day. As she approached the lift, she reflected on how she had…
Human beings would not function without relationships. Our world is made up of different types of relationships and these stem from family, friends, spouses, and strangers. As a Relationship Counsellor I have seen how relationships are formed and eroded. I would like to give you an insight into this throughout this blog. Firstly, I…
Another Lockdown is upon us and to heighten it even more it is in the middle of winter. However, I do believe the darkest hour is always the hour before the dawn, so while we are waiting for that dawn, I wanted to talk to you about maintaining yourself care while in lockdown. …